During postpartum recovery, it can be a difficult time adjusting to the needs of a newborn and staying physically and emotionally connected to your husband. This transition can be challenging for parents as their marriage and intimacy often takes a backseat to new responsibilities. As you adjust, you begin to understand how to care for you and your baby and how to please your husband during postpartum.
Some challenges you may encounter include feeling like you have to make unlimited sacrifices while caring for your baby and possibly losing your own identity in the process. Your husband may feel sidelined and left out due to how much time you have to devote to the baby.
Follow the tips below to help moms like you adapt and learn how to please your husband during postpartum. Our resources page has additional information, along with our Marriage Repair Handbook.
Working on Intimacy – How to Please Your Husband During Postpartum
There’s more to intimacy than just sex. Intimacy can be emotional, physical, spiritual, and intellectual. You should work towards having them all, because the more intimacy you share with your husband, the deeper your bond will become. Intimacy keeps you connected to your husband.
If you’re wondering how to satisfy your husband after having a baby, there are a few things that you can do. Start with flirting with each other and giving each other compliments. Doing this shows that you’re appreciative and affectionate towards one another. Appreciation and affection are important and necessary towards building intimacy.
To renew a physical connection, you can try incorporating these suggestions into your new routine:
- Kissing each other every morning and every night before bed
- Hugging each other before you leave and when you return home
- Cuddling on the couch while watching your favorite movie or tv show
- Dancing with each other while enjoying your favorite songs
- Holding each other’s hands when you go for a walk
- Taking a bath together with calming music playing in the background
- Giving each other massages including neck and shoulder rubs, back rubs, and foot rubs
- Performing oral sex on each other while improving your technique each time
- Taking pleasure in mutual masturbation as you please each other
These are good options for rekindling intimacy when you both feel comfortable moving forward. Be sure to tell your partner what feels good — and what doesn’t, because your sexual experiences may feel different than before. Communication ensures that the experience remains pleasurable for both spouses.
These same rules apply for intimacy after C Section. After a cesarean delivery, you’ll be recovering from abdominal surgery, so make sure the incision site has properly healed before having sex. If you’re still healing, be mindful and pay attention to your body.
Don’t feel like you have to rush to get back to normal. In the meantime, you can try these non-sexual intimacy ideas to help you reconnect and satisfy your husband after giving birth.
Reconnecting with Each Other – How to Work as a Team
Be sure to take some time to reconnect with your spouse to do something you both enjoy. Try to fit in things that you can enjoy together, such as watching a movie or going for a walk. Enjoying each other’s company is the first step towards rebuilding intimacy.
Rebuilding intimacy takes time. But, if you maintain a positive approach, such as having patience, a sense of humor, understanding, and a willingness to find new ways of expressing intimacy, both of you will reach a point where you feel comfortable again.
It’s also helpful to talk to each other throughout the day to figure out what’s going well or what can be improved upon to make your lives easier. Working as a team is the key to overcoming challenges, which is why it’s important to make time for yourselves individually and as a couple.
If you need more information on how to reconnect and build intimacy, visit our resources page for more information or download a copy of our Marriage Repair Handbook.