Many relationships go through rough times when one person decides to cheat. This is the last thing anyone wants to find out or believe that it happened to them. However, there are some very real signs that your partner is lying about cheating. This type of dishonesty and distrust should never exist in a committed relationship.
Warning Signs and Behavioral Changes
If you think your partner is cheating, look for possible warning signs. One warning sign could be if your partner starts acting differently. They may become more secretive or may not communicate with you as frequently as before. For example, a nightly phone call could decrease to once or twice per week, and texts throughout the day will dwindle to almost nothing.
Another sign is if your partner exhibits new or different behaviors, such as being more attentive to their appearance, being secretive about their phone or computer use, or having unexplained absences. When they start hiding their phone activity or staying away from you longer, it’s time to start asking questions.
But, once you have a conversation, how can you tell if they are lying or telling the truth? The vast majority of people will deny infidelity in the beginning. Signs that they are lying include making up ridiculous stories or unsupported excuses. For example, if they claim their job is suddenly sending them on business trips every week, it raises a very big red flag.
If you notice any of these signs, it is important to talk to your partner about your concerns and see if they are willing to be honest with you. If they choose not to tell you the truth, it may be time to consider ending the relationship.
Negative Personality Traits
Unfortunately, some of the characteristics that your partner has may be red flags that could lead to cheating and lying in the future. These include things like being overly concerned with appearances, excessive flirtatious behavior, controlling, clinginess, and jealousy. Also, remember that if something seems too good to be true, it probably is.
These personality traits can indicate whether your partner is lying about cheating. If they’re focusing on other people’s impressions of them or on physical looks alone that could indicate a shallow interest in relationships rather than the type of romantic bond that will stand the test of time.
Flirting may seem like harmless fun, but it can quickly tip over into inappropriate behavior. Seeking attention from other people can make it more enticing to sneak around and be dishonest.
Clinginess and jealousy, which may flatter you in the beginning, can lead to accusations that are projections of their own cheating behavior.
If you have concerns that your partner is cheating and lying about it, look for red flags and suspicious changes in their behavior. Talk with them and do not dismiss your feelings until you are comfortable doing so. You deserve to be in an honest, trustworthy, and fulfilling relationship.
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