Marriages fall apart for a wide variety of reasons. It’s possible to save your marriage if you take positive steps to rekindle and reinforce the relationship. There are no guarantees, but these tips can help overcome trust issues, personality conflicts, and love lost as the years go by.
The commitment to last ’til death do you part takes two. This dedication is more important than ever when times get rough. There are a few things that may help bring you back to working together toward that forever goal. Your efforts largely depend on the perceived problem.
Personality Conflicts – Why Is My Wife Always Irritated With Me?
Take a look in the mirror if aggravation and anger take over your marriage. If you think to yourself, “My wife is always angry”, make sure your actions correspond with your wife’s love language. Do and say more things that she loves.
Also, practice empathy for your wife. Your objective is to understand and share in her feelings. If you are not the cause of her irritation, find out what is. At this point, you are only trying to understand her point of view. Do not try to fix her, and do not place blame.
If apologies are warranted, apologize, but do not fall into the trap of saying sorry for everything in an attempt to appease her mood. Two-way conversation is the key to understanding each other. Listening with the intent to understand is the most important part.
Remember that a marriage does not end because you forgot to take the garbage out or left your socks on the bedroom floor. The buildup of irritation and aggravation stems from things like lack of respect and unfair expectations.
Understand which behaviors cause your wife to be irritated and which ones make her smile. Kindness, compliments and gratitude fuel positive feelings.
Honesty and Integrity – My Wife Doesn’t Trust Me
If your marriage suffers due to infidelity, counseling may be your best hope for saving it. A serious breach of trust and the promises made to each other are difficult to come back from.
Overcoming past or current problems has to be more important than who caused them. Any loss of trust requires a lot of communication and long-term action to regain it.
However, this does not mean apologizing, begging for forgiveness, and showering your partner with gifts. Instead, you must take action to show that you are worthy of her trust.
Share information willingly and before she asks you to. Be open and honest about everything, even things you believe aren’t important. Start the morning with a chat about your day, go over your schedule, and talk about shared responsibilities like bills or future events. Respond to phone calls and texts promptly to maintain easy access to you.
Also, be proactive in building trust by sending her texts or starting conversations. Never do anything that you would not want her to know. Then you will not have anything to hide from her.
Moving Forward – Getting your Marriage Back on Track
Once your marriage is in a better place, and you are communicating more frequently. Keep moving forward, and try out some of her hobbies or suggest a completely new activity together.
Rekindle a romantic spark with date nights, appreciative compliments, and symbolic gestures specific to your wife’s interests and tastes. Not everyone loves a dozen red roses or a new handbag.
The best way to save your marriage is to work on it as a team every day. While people and circumstances change, the commitment must remain in place to keep a marriage strong.
If your wife falters or feels differently as time goes by, you can still take action and make changes to stop divorce and renew the meaning and emotion behind those forever vows.
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